Part two

Peradventure you have not read the first part, please sacrifice few minutes to go and read it before reading this. God bless you.

The essences of family are what make it beautiful and each character of the member  makeup the odds and differences we can point to in families today.

Recently, a lot of controversial question were been raised about Family that, "who takes the heaviest responsibility in the Family"?.

Some says, "the Mother, and some the Father".

However, the expectations of the Father and Mother with their different roles were in western culture dichotomous where mothers and fathers had clear tasks and responsibilities.

As we can easily categorize them. Mothers’ primary duties were to care for the children and households and the fathers were to be the breadwinner.

But it wasn't so right from beginning, every part of the body are meant to help each other and even to share others' pain.

Let me ask "how do you feel on your forehead and in your eyeballs whenever you have catarrh"?

Is it not the nose that was inffected?

Although, it is good to clarify task for an effective administration but not to be over hyped.

The above question should not be a driving force in family but a pointer to how we can build a coexisting homes.

Regardless of individual's task in the family, God did not institute marriage because of those tasks, marriage is a reflection of God's kingdom on earth.

Research have shown that 75% (percent) of  families are divorced today mainly because one partner failed in discharging his/her responsibilities.

Most divorced homes are not because one partner did not love the other anymore but because one find it difficult to embrace the weakness of the other and help him/ her.

Some find it difficult to forgive one and other. This made me to rationalize and say, 
The first sustaining power in marriage is not loving each other first, it is the "act of forgiveness" (accepting each other for whom s/he is). Now let us view it in God's perspective.

God didn't just love man after his disobedience in the garden of Eden, He had to forgave him first, accepted him for who he was and demonstrated love by making an apron for them.

And afterward He gave man His begotten son as a sacrifice to reconcile man back to Himself.

Forgiveness doesn't means you're wrong or fool, but it means that, "you're panting after what is right and Peace".

Imagine if God is waiting for our sorry all this days, guess who would be at the receiving end, man of course!  And it cost God nothing to destroy us and create a new being that will harken to His words.

Excluding premature marriages, family is the headlamp for the society, if the family is healthy, the whole society will be full of peace.

Carelessly, we push aside children's responsibilities in the family. Children's  responsibilities in family is beyond house core.

Part of their responsibility is to maintain and sustain a true relationships.

Little wonder, the scripture called children arrows. They are vital tools both for defense and offense.

Therefore, King David did not just want to favor Jonathan's family but because of the relationship that coexisted between them.

(1 sam 18:1-2 )
Jonathan forgiven David of whom he was (to be a King in his place) then his soul was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.

In conclusion I urge you as a Husband, a wife and children that, no matter the gravity of  offense in your family, learn to forgive each other.

This isn't a way of restraining descipline from the children. But unforgivingness have a way of affecting the children physiologically and psychologically, which may limit their performance even among their peers.

Lastly, Don't give much room for third voice in your marriage rather confide in God. Moreover, if anything goes wrong in your Marriage (Family), report it to the One who ordained marriage (God).

Don't let the impression of your knees be wipe away on the altar of prayer.We win more battles in our secret place than we can physically.

Shalom!