Dear Ifedapo, 
        Speaking of Valentine, It is not a time of love alone for me but to express how I truly feel in my relationship If I must be sincere. Toke was a guy I knew back then. I don't want to remember how we met because it makes my heart to bleed the more. He is most handsome man I have ever seen. He was my everything and my life. I'm incomplete without him. Life was beautiful and the sun was shining brighter everyday. Am I actually exaggerating? No, this is how you feel when you are in love. The reality set in when I understood that Toke want nothing from me except "fun". I'm a lovely lady any man could fall in love with me. Different from other girls you've met. Ambitious and self independent. In short, a wife material. I think that what is needed in a relationship. Toke love this about me but wanted something more. How did you expect me to stay with one woman all my life? I'm just 27. My friends have more. I want to explore the earth, my dream and women too. How am I so sure you don't have other guys running around you too? He said. But he also added; Laide, you my best girl and I love you but I don't want to see any man around you. I am the only one here free to have countless girlfriends why? because I'm a man. So I obeyed him. I love you Toke with all my heart but he keeps breaking my heart. And every time he is saying sorry even on his knees with tears in his eyes. You don't know how much you mean to me. I love you Laide but yet he keeps hurting me. We've been together for 8years no sign he will be proposing to me. I don't even know if I really mean much to him like he claimed. Toke, please don't be scared to break my heart. 
     I know we've been together for so long. In good times and in bad times. In rain and in sunshine. I know your deepest secrets and you have wept on my shoulders. I have mine with you too, remember? I know you are my first and I'm not mad at you. I washed your clothes and fetched your water and you called me "Your second mother". I stood by you when you were sick and I couldn't stop praying when things are not fine. Toke, don't be scared to hurt me because now you have done worst. 
    I appreciate those times you spend your last dime on me. I appreciate your calls and the lovely messages. Is it the surprise birthday party? Or the clothes you bought for me? Is it when you will stick with me when my mother was sick. I remembered when I slept in your sweater during those cold night. You couldn't sleep when I'm sick. You travelled all the way from home to see me. Days when you bought my makeups and took me to a fancy restaurant. You even took responsibility of my siblings yet I cheated on you. It wasn't intentional. I told you how sorry I am and you forgave me but since then your countenance has change towards me. Yet you claim to love me but you were not doing like you used to. You find it hard to believe I'm a changed person. You repay me even more than I do to you. Toke, please don't be scared to tell me it's over. Break my heart please, I've learnt my lesson. 
     I have done worst for you Toke. I was like your shadow. I don't mean to be proud but I did more for you. Remember when I gave you my school fees to pay for your project and lied to my dad that it was stolen. The apartment we lived back then in school you know I paid the rent for good four years. Most of your designer clothes I bought it. I gave you money whenever you needed it and help you when you have problems with your courses. I did it all because I was in love with you and you think I am a fool. My friends think I'm under your spell, I did it out of love Toke. But Is that why you are scared to tell me you are fed up, You are seeing another woman. I'm hurt Toke, please break up with me. 
    You are a drug addict, you drink to stupor. Yet I still love you. You are an amazing man, people just don't realize it. Sometimes I told you how bad smoking but you won't listen. The first time you hit me, you pleaded it was  out of anger. But now even before an argument speed up between us you have turned me into a punching bag. I do lie to my friends that I had an accident and sometimes I told them I fell down, but how many times will I tell them those were not lies? Now I have turned into an object of mockery just because I'm in love with you. Seriously, don't be scared to break my heart. Your beatings have done worst. 
     I want to remain a virgin till I married. I tried to explain to you but you don't understand. You accused me of being childish, not exposed and immature. You claim to love me yet you sleep around with other women. When I confronted you, you said that's what other women do to save their relationship. I have a life ahead of me and I don't want to destroy it with just 5minutes of pleasure. Here I am Olamitoke, break my heart. Tumininu, made that decision too but she so much love Oladele. She did countless of abortions for him and now Oladele is married to another woman and my friend is here brokenhearted. 
   Toke, you got nothing to offer me, you are the most selfish, self centered person I ever seen. You are a liar and here I am telling you I've gone through worst being in relationship with you just let's break up. I'm not scared to lose you. 
   Finally, people say we're met to be together. Our love was sweet and was a model to every kind of relationship but we couldn't keep up. We both have our dreams which is totally different. I love you Toke but I want a lot in my man that you didn't possess and at times I feel I don't deserve you. You are too good for me, I'm breaking up with you. I know it hurts but I can't keep hurting you because it makes my heart broken the more. Toke, please break up with me. 
  Ifedapo, I don't know if you have other ladies out there who are heartbroken because of their own Olamitoke tell them they shouldn't be scared to tell him to break up with them. They have been through worst it's time to be free.

                                          Your Friend 
                                              Olaide