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IFEDAPOMOLA DEBORAH

I'M A STUDENT AND I LOVE WRITING

6 articles

December 15, 2018

I was still thinking about it, until Sister Linda Ikeji case came up.

   A friend of mine, Dami, he said Ifedapo, I love the way you write, I'm sure you must be a strong, super woman. In my mind, I laughed and was like only if you know how weak I can be. Sometimes I even act like a child, you've not witnessed me weeping. You don't know days when I feel like not praying, not even reading my bible. Even to carry my notes or books to read is problem for me. Someone would see and be like spiritual mama, I'm telling you I still look up to people and feel like baby christian. Sometimes, when I'm praying for people, I'm wishing someone too is praying for me out there too? I'm responsible for people but I will ask myself is there someone out there looking out for me? I care for people but sometimes, I want to be careful for. I'm sure same thing happens to several people who God has placed in one position or the other, that people look up them. But in this part of the world we are in, they see these people as demigod, they expect you to be perfect, no sign of weakness and if you do otherwise, then your are hypocrite, pretender, or you are probably seeking for attention. These have definitely caused problems in the lives of several celebrities. 
    One thing I always do before writing is directing that situation to myself, what if you are in that position, what will do? If this was written about you, how will you feel? So when I write, I don't always write for people alone, I write for myself also. So atimes when I go back to what I've written, I'm always amazed and I have benefited from what I wrote myself.
   So I'm going to address three situations here. Firstly, because you are in a particular position doesn't mean you can't make mistakes, as long as we are human, we are prone to it. Situations or people may warrant them to do so. Some might not even know they are doing the wrong thing and some, I won't lie to you, they are just seeking attention, they just have evil motives. But one thing I always love is for one to admit that he or she is wrong and learn from that mistake, or else you will make yourself a liar and lose your integrity. 
     Secondly, before you remove the log in someone's eye, remove the speck in yours first. Don't say it because that's what they are saying, don't write because that is what you are expected to write. Don't say or write what you don't practice. Don't think if I say, do or write this, they will love you more. People are watching in case you don't know, you might think they are not looking and it won't be nice if they didn't speak well of you. 
      Lastly, people can be so funny at times when used them to measure on how well you are doing, Right from when I was kid, all the uncles and aunts in the neighborhood would say; "you should go to Art class, you write very well". Some would say "I'm touched". Another person would walk up to me and say "I love the way you write, can you write something for me?" Another one would say, "let's write something together". Another one will ask you for your advice. Another will even ask you "when are you writing the next episode?" You know when they give you more attention. So they expect you to give them more and more, you wouldn't want to disappoint them. Somehow, you get used to it and when you couldn't keep up, you had to do something forgetting that these same people are the one who will point fingers at you. What am I saying in essence is be yourself and don't exaggerate things, don't be afraid to say you can't keep up. Don't let your happiness depends on people or to please them yet don't let it be about you alone... you are becoming selfish in nature. Just be you.
      
                
Photo: One of the 'lazy me' picture 

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IFEDAPOMOLA DEBORAH

I'M A STUDENT AND I LOVE WRITING

6 articles

December 15, 2018


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